Ever since my very first book was published a highlight for me has been interacting with readers. I love learning about others and giving them a place to tell us about themselves. If you're interested in joining the fun email me firstname.lastname@example.org or use the contact link at the top of the page.
Today I'm delighted to have Ami join me. She comments and participates in a number of events, so it's great having the opportunity to get to know more about her wonderful outlook on life.
Ami, would you tell us a little about yourself?
What can I say about myself … well, I am a nearly 40-years-old Indonesian; I live and work at a brand/ media agency in Jakarta in a qualitative research division. I am an asexual, single (with no plan of being in a relationship, married, or have kids), introvert, pragmatic, a dreamer, a planner (when it comes to my travel only it seems *laugh*), a procrastinator (when it comes to things I don’t feel the mood of doing), a voracious reader, a daughter, a sister, and well, I’d hope also a good friend.
I cannot really remember the turning point before I switched from M/F romance to M/M romance – and how I alternate in between both genres now – but I think it was a combination of few little things. In mid-2000s I found myself being bored with what M/F romance offer. The big theme of women looking for love, wanting to get married, and have kids just didn’t work for me at that time. I couldn’t relate to it.
And I was a gigantic movie watcher in the 2000s … and one of my introductions to gay issues and gay romantic element came from movies. I came across movies like Brokeback Mountain (2006), and discovered My Beautiful Laundrette (Daniel Day Lewis!) or Maurice. Then I found Shelter, which showed that well, gay romance didn’t have to end tragically.
So I opened my eyes to what other movies, TV series (oh how I loved Bryan/Justin and Kevin/Scotty), and books. At first I read gay literature, but I didn’t like it because they were often depressing. Then I scoured Amazon sites, looking for recommendations, and found MM romance.
Two of my early authors were J.L. Langley and Ally Blue … but I gotta say that I wasn’t prepared for all the sex-galore! I love romance but I don’t like reading too many sex scenes. I was ready to give up on the genre … but then I stumbled into Josh Lanyon, Jordan Castillo Price, and Victor J. Banis – who offered romance in a mystery/paranormal setting … and well, the rest is history as they say
Why do you like this genre?
For the stories, I love MM because it offers “Love is Love” – and the fact that there’s more to the ‘normal’ convention of women having to marry men. As for the social part of it, I made GREAT friends among the MM readers community, few of them are real life Indonesian friends. I feel like I connect and I belong with them.
One other thing that makes me feel GRATEFUL for this genre is that it actually helped me finding out about my asexuality. I would've never heard about this before. Especially since Eastern culture about sex is different with Western. Because of this genre, I know about my own sexuality, and it helps me be at peace with my choices in life. So I can say I owe this genre as well.
So you see, this genre has enriched my life for sure – not just my reading!